Comments on: after the fact (stripping) http://www.texasgoldengirl.com/afterhours/how-stripping-affected-me/ working hard to create content/ideas so others can rip me off -- since 2006, no wait, 2002 Fri, 10 Sep 2010 00:13:37 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8 hourly 1 By: Amanda Brooks http://www.texasgoldengirl.com/afterhours/how-stripping-affected-me/comment-page-1/#comment-172408 Amanda Brooks Fri, 25 Jun 2010 03:05:44 +0000 http://www.texasgoldengirl.com/afterhours/how-stripping-affected-me/#comment-172408 Miss Jane, I felt MUCH the same way as you do -- one of the reasons I knew I was burned out and done with dancing. (Yes, I looked at all men as customers.) Becoming an escort changed my view of men toward the positive. While some may say I'm even more jaded, I do still look at men as potential clients and how they would treat me. Judging who to spend your personal time with based on how they respect you is not a bad place to start. That being said, you don't need to become an escort. Continue with your life, work as an RN. Time away from the club and environment and attitudes will make a difference. As will getting normal sleep and a healthier diet. Don't spend your free time in clubs, find something else fun to when you go out. Stripping is not a job for everyone. It's a very hard job and most of us aren't prepared to handle the psychological demands. I've met very few women who have the cast-iron ego needed to be a stripper. Just because you did a job you weren't suited for is nothing to beat yourself up over. You learned a lot. Let it go and move ahead. You will :) XX Miss Jane,

I felt MUCH the same way as you do — one of the reasons I knew I was burned out and done with dancing. (Yes, I looked at all men as customers.)

Becoming an escort changed my view of men toward the positive. While some may say I’m even more jaded, I do still look at men as potential clients and how they would treat me. Judging who to spend your personal time with based on how they respect you is not a bad place to start.

That being said, you don’t need to become an escort. Continue with your life, work as an RN. Time away from the club and environment and attitudes will make a difference. As will getting normal sleep and a healthier diet. Don’t spend your free time in clubs, find something else fun to when you go out.

Stripping is not a job for everyone. It’s a very hard job and most of us aren’t prepared to handle the psychological demands. I’ve met very few women who have the cast-iron ego needed to be a stripper. Just because you did a job you weren’t suited for is nothing to beat yourself up over. You learned a lot. Let it go and move ahead. You will :)

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]]> By: Miss Jane http://www.texasgoldengirl.com/afterhours/how-stripping-affected-me/comment-page-1/#comment-172320 Miss Jane Wed, 23 Jun 2010 04:17:07 +0000 http://www.texasgoldengirl.com/afterhours/how-stripping-affected-me/#comment-172320 Love your blog... I've been dancing 6 years... back in the days where you could make tons of money for looking cute and having a good personality...This industry has taken a disturbing turn for the worse. I never was a good hustler, and while I have yet to meet anyone who was innocent in a strip club, I most certainly never went :there" wherever "there" is... but this economy has brought out the worst in people, and between the constant stress, the emotional detatchment from myself, the different twists and turns, and highs and lows of the buisness... I have never been more ready to walk away and never look back.. If you stay in the industry for any length of time it has a way of changing you... for me... I hate dancing.. the first 3 1/2 years were awesome..but after that..i'm so done with it... I talk to some of the girls who've left and I get scared bcuz so much of my life included dancing... it was an addiction, and an escape in some ways... I'm now almost done with my R.N. degree and will have to return back to "reality" soon... just scares me bcuz I wonder how long dancing will haunt me... it really has hardened me and jaded me against men. I havent looked at the world through the same innocent eyes as I once did. as much as I hate it, I dont regret it... just maybe the length of time I did it for... anyway...I know what u mean about messed up knees, and how certain smells and songs remind you of work. I hardley ever go out to the bar... cuz when i do I find myself wondering who I would be able to get a dance from... I'm hopeing there is a way to cleanse myself from the life I lived as a dancer... Love your blog… I’ve been dancing 6 years… back in the days where you could make tons of money for looking cute and having a good personality…This industry has taken a disturbing turn for the worse. I never was a good hustler, and while I have yet to meet anyone who was innocent in a strip club, I most certainly never went :there” wherever “there” is… but this economy has brought out the worst in people, and between the constant stress, the emotional detatchment from myself, the different twists and turns, and highs and lows of the buisness… I have never been more ready to walk away and never look back.. If you stay in the industry for any length of time it has a way of changing you… for me… I hate dancing.. the first 3 1/2 years were awesome..but after that..i’m so done with it… I talk to some of the girls who’ve left and I get scared bcuz so much of my life included dancing… it was an addiction, and an escape in some ways… I’m now almost done with my R.N. degree and will have to return back to “reality” soon… just scares me bcuz I wonder how long dancing will haunt me… it really has hardened me and jaded me against men. I havent looked at the world through the same innocent eyes as I once did. as much as I hate it, I dont regret it… just maybe the length of time I did it for… anyway…I know what u mean about messed up knees, and how certain smells and songs remind you of work. I hardley ever go out to the bar… cuz when i do I find myself wondering who I would be able to get a dance from… I’m hopeing there is a way to cleanse myself from the life I lived as a dancer…

]]> By: Amanda Brooks http://www.texasgoldengirl.com/afterhours/how-stripping-affected-me/comment-page-1/#comment-168282 Amanda Brooks Sun, 04 Apr 2010 06:27:37 +0000 http://www.texasgoldengirl.com/afterhours/how-stripping-affected-me/#comment-168282 Rache, I hear you re: your knees and lack of hustling skills. I tried stripping in a couple Vegas clubs in 2008 and it was NOT worth it. Ugh. But maybe the economy had something to do with it. Or that I had real work to do and needed to get up early for. Much prefer escort work for my income (though it's not for everyone). No one's done a study (I don't think) but I bet there are more moonlighting strippers than ever due to the economy. You're very welcome for the post. If you haven't read Casey's blog, give it a try: http://caseydancer.livejournal.com/ XX Rache,

I hear you re: your knees and lack of hustling skills. I tried stripping in a couple Vegas clubs in 2008 and it was NOT worth it. Ugh. But maybe the economy had something to do with it. Or that I had real work to do and needed to get up early for. Much prefer escort work for my income (though it’s not for everyone).

No one’s done a study (I don’t think) but I bet there are more moonlighting strippers than ever due to the economy.

You’re very welcome for the post. If you haven’t read Casey’s blog, give it a try:
http://caseydancer.livejournal.com/

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]]> By: Rache http://www.texasgoldengirl.com/afterhours/how-stripping-affected-me/comment-page-1/#comment-168266 Rache Sat, 03 Apr 2010 22:01:53 +0000 http://www.texasgoldengirl.com/afterhours/how-stripping-affected-me/#comment-168266 I quit today. My knees can't take it anymore and my lack of hustling skills makes it not worth it in this location (SF) and this economy. I feel you on being too real. But I will miss the theatrics of it all. Maybe I'll take a break, get on my feet with a real job again and go back to one night a week for fun and side money. It's funny how once you quit and go back, you make more in one night than three! (or at least that was how it was for me after a 6 month break). Thanks for this post. Strippers are so often misunderstood and I feel like noone understands what I am going through. I quit today. My knees can’t take it anymore and my lack of hustling skills makes it not worth it in this location (SF) and this economy. I feel you on being too real. But I will miss the theatrics of it all. Maybe I’ll take a break, get on my feet with a real job again and go back to one night a week for fun and side money. It’s funny how once you quit and go back, you make more in one night than three! (or at least that was how it was for me after a 6 month break).

Thanks for this post. Strippers are so often misunderstood and I feel like noone understands what I am going through.

]]> By: Amanda Brooks http://www.texasgoldengirl.com/afterhours/how-stripping-affected-me/comment-page-1/#comment-160282 Amanda Brooks Wed, 18 Nov 2009 01:44:57 +0000 http://www.texasgoldengirl.com/afterhours/how-stripping-affected-me/#comment-160282 Megan, Thank you and thank you! As far as men go, I often walk around now and can tell what sort of escort experience the guy will want. Talk about TMI! XX Megan,

Thank you and thank you!

As far as men go, I often walk around now and can tell what sort of escort experience the guy will want. Talk about TMI!

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