Well, I had a brush with media yesterday — in an uncontrolled fashion.
A writer for one of the Dallas Observer’s blogs today called and spoke to me briefly. He wanted to interview me. Sure.
Instead, he just used info from my book’s site, a Dallas Morning News article that quoted me (yes, they did briefly interview me) and mashed it together with some humor.
It’s irritating because I don’t get the chance to say what I want, how I want. Not that I put anything online I am not certain about, but there’s so much more that can be said in conversation’s give-and-take that can’t be done with a passive online posting.
And the need to score guy-humor points is irritating. Why do guys always think girls are simply set-ups for their jokes? Especially if it involves sex?
The comments following the posts really take the cake. I don’t think anyone posting there knows me (pretty safe assumption). I’m ready to re-word the old adage “If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all” to “If you can’t say anything remotely intelligent, don’t say anything at all.” But then, I think the Internet would cease to be.
The joke stops being funny when it starts being you. Poor Britney. Not that I am unsympathetic to her decline but it’s got a new angle now. And Kristen, who is having her personal life examined whether she wants it or not.
The obvious answer: get a thick skin. Yeah, I know. Easier said than done, but I have pratice. I’ve gotten far worse in e-mails from guys responding to my escort ads. This time, though, there is a slight hint of being used. That adds a new sting. And, thinking like a marketer — how can I get this under my control again to give myself the most gain? That is why I’m out there in the first place. Let’s not kid ourselves about that.
This also gave me a rare insight into motherhood. How does my mother feel about her daughter’s choice to put herself into public view and possible danger? She must have very conflicting feelings. How would she feel to read those comments from strangers aimed at someone who is not a stranger to her?
And still, she e-mailed to let me know she heard my very short KRLD interview on the radio.