4 Responses to “on my retirement part II or how i learned to stop worrying and love monogamy”

1. Mark Says:
   
   July 11th, 2008 at 9:49 pm

   I am happy with one woman out of 3.5 billion.

   Cheers,

   Mark

   
   
2. Amanda Brooks Says:
   
   July 12th, 2008 at 6:19 am

   Mark,

   Good for you. I don’t think that’s most people though.

   XX

   
   
3. Julian Cooper Says:
   
   May 25th, 2010 at 6:50 pm

   i am saving money for my retirement because i want to enjoy most of my time as an old man.’-~

   
   
4. Hobbyist Says:
   
   October 9th, 2010 at 4:26 pm

   This is a great blog! Impeccably written, honest and lucid, about unusual subjects that should interest us all.

   I’ve come to think that monogamy is not natural for most. From a man, the statement won’t surprise too many, but I started out very serious and committed myself.
   After coming from a broken home, meeting so many unhappy but very attached people, being hit on by so many married women, and then discovering The Hobby… I realized that there’s a lot to be said for sex with strangers and “no strings attached” arrangements.

   And this doesn’t come from a sex addict, believe me (I’m a loner with low drive). It’s just that experience has given me little trust in human nature, including mine.

   Amanda, you sound so self-aware that I feel silly asking (you’ve surely thought about that long ago), but aren’t you afraid to start resenting your man (or your decision) after a while, and to end up taking it out on him?

   I’m sure that companionship and friendship can keep couples together for a long time, but what about those that are highly sexual, or constantly exposed to temptations, or have very free attitudes toward sex?