getting paid on time
One thing sex workers have going for us is that we get paid on time. Smart ones get paid upfront (this is standard for most, but not all, of the world). While I’ve often compared mentally freelance writing work with sex work, they’re only now catching up to the pay-upon-completion model. Not the same as pay-upfront, more like pay-as-you-go but for a legal occupation, it’s a huge step forward.
make an authentic logo
Too funny! Hipster logos!
speaking of authentic
Yes, that guy I mentioned in the first section did indeed make another one of his damned “authentic” posts. I cursed at the monitor for subjecting me to it, then unsubscribed. I’ve added a couple new non-sex-work blog subscriptions and am much happier. Thank you, non-authentic bloggers, for writing more of what I like reading.
If you care, she’s doing her second AMA on February 13! I won’t pester her with any questions, but can’t wait to read it.
hooker-spotting part 1
I’ve always wanted to share this but haven’t. Here you go:
“Hookers stand out in Cannes. They’re the ones who are well-dressed and not smoking,” Tweeted Roger Ebert in 2010.
Though I have not been there during the film festival, I agree with his take on the scene.
hooker-spotting part 2
In the review of Girl Undressed, Caty and Red lightly touch on the author’s trotting out her credentials before she started stripping. They really discuss the author’s viewpoint of herself as very different from other strippers (i.e. different as better). They call this the Unlikely Stripper Syndrome and they’re right. I think every stripper memoir I’ve read has this in it. Prostitute memoirs are usually a bit less into the rationalization. I don’t know why so many sex work writers feel the need to grab the label. Denial? Guilt? Shame?
I find myself to be Unlikely in many ways, but a lot of that is because of my attitude (and my lack of denial and rationalization) and sometimes my ethics. I am the weirdo who always wanted to do this from a young age, so I think I’m very likely, likelier than most. But in real life, I sometimes have to argue to convince people I actually am/have been an escort/stripper because they don’t think I look or act like a sex worker of any sort — these people include other sex workers. (Makes turning tricks in bars difficult in the US, men in other countries aren’t so self-deluded.) So while I get the Unlikely syndrome based on the reactions of others, it’s not something I’ve sought because I see no reason for it. I don’t feel the need to fit any sort of stereotype because I’m not bending my nature to suit the job (it works the other way around for me, sometimes this is good, sometimes frustrating).
The Unlikely syndrome is foisted upon me by others and I resent it. Many sex workers, published or not, seek it because they’re not getting it and it galls them. Grass is always greener, I guess.
twitter hashtag campaigns are working
The Twitter hashtag thing for sex workers, #banfreebies, apparently has been taken too seriously by a civilian woman, though I doubt a sex worker attacked her on Twitter for giving it away. Sex workers have personal relationships, you know. But also, her getting the point of #banfreebies was a complete, total #fail.
trying to shut down twitter for sex workers
Since America has solved all other social problems, Congress has focused on Twitter and its sex worker population. The two articles I’ve seen on this issue all contain screenshots of Twitter accounts located in countries where prostitution is legal. Not to mention that they include pro-dommes in their concern about trafficking. While I’m sure it’s happened since anything is possible, I feel that it’s very rare for a pro-domme to be a) trafficked and/or b) underage.
Mostly, Twitter is a space where sex workers are fairly free and most use it for global networking. I guess that networking is too successful. That, and the US doesn’t like uppity hookers. Freedom of speech does not apply to us. I hope Twitter decides to fight back and not throw us under the bus, like Craigslist.
women are liars
I’ve never thought about this way before, but the author is right: women are seen as liars in our society. The first half of this essay is particularly good and relevant to almost every woman I’ve ever known.
things i’ve recently realized, not learned
These are things I learned a long time ago but only have recent events made my lessons clear to myself.
- Whenever a man tells a woman to do something (especially if that includes being silent about injustice or harm), then the woman needs to do the exact opposite. He’s filled with fear and can’t wait to spout his deepest fears to his victims. Unwittingly, he gives up his power by revealing himself.
- Having fear gives the bad guys all sorts of power over you. Have no fear and they have no power. (This is why I told my mom I am an escort.)
- One way to recognize freedom is by the lack of fear.