I’ve been with WAY more as a sex worker but that’s also because I put myself out there for that reason. It’s been fun and an experience. Though I can’t say the quality is there (statistically it can’t be, nor is it part of the job description) it has taught ME an awful lot about sex I would not have learned any other way.

It does make me super-picky and super-selfish in my personal life. I agree with you — if it doesn’t feel good (and you’re not being paid), why bother? That’s a smart perspective — not a guy perspective!

XX

When I was about 24ish I remember comparing numbers with a friend… Hers was still in the single digits. I asked her if she came with all of those guys. Only one. I was shocked, I thought the reason you had sex was because it felt so super good… She accused me of thinking like a man and being only after my own orgasm (well, I can come alot, most men can come only once or twice, so um… ya, I was sort of after my own pleasure ).

It’s funny that people place such an emphasis on quantity, when really it’s about quality. I would rather be with a man who has had 90 good experiences out of 100 than with a guy who has been with 10 and only had 5 positive experiences.

Yes, a lot of “experts” in every field are not as expert as one might think (I say this carefully since I’m positioning myself as a knowledgable person in a narrow niche). Kind of makes me think of looking for a doctor to do Lasik — you want one that has done thousands or one does a couple operations per week? I know which one I’d consider the “expert.”

Thanks for sharing your number! (in a way)

Robert,

Newbie maybe, but then, the whole matter of quality comes into play. I’m betting those 5 weren’t a ships-passing-in-the-night sort of thing. And hey, if you’re happy with your number, then so be it! Doesn’t matter what we think!

XX