Dec 14, 2007 Advisor Amanda
I’ve been remiss in my Advisor Amanda idea. This jumped out at me from the Advisor column. It hit me on so many levels. This is either a guy with some serious issues, or rather sensitive man pursuing love in the wrong way.
December 07′s Question
I work at a restaurant. Last week I slept with a co-worker. Earlier this week we were waiting around after our shifts and I asked her out for a drink. She said she was waiting for one of the kitchen guys to finish because they had made plans. When I got upset she said I had no right to act like a jealous boyfriend. Although I know we’re not a couple, I feel it’s disrespectful for her to spend time with somebody else we work with. How does the Advisor interpret the rules of dating here?
Advisor’s Answer: We’re sorry to disappoint, but the rules of dating apply only if the woman agrees you’re dating. She is free to work her way through the entire restaurant without consulting you.
My answer: Repeat after me: she owns her pussy. Keep saying it until it becomes your gospel.
Understand that a one-night stand does not mean she owes you anything — not respect for your feelings, not the obligation to do it again — nothing, nada, zip, zilch, zero (this works both ways, ladies). The one night of meaningful screwing you had with her has not changed her life plans. And if it wasn’t all that great, it may’ve changed her views toward you in a negative way.
In all fairness, you might actually be the type of guy who will never sleep with anyone else at work besides her. (I’m betting not.) A valuable lesson I learned a long time ago: never have sex with anyone you work with. Life becomes much simpler if you don’t.